Going No Contact & the Wisdom of Goldilocks

The Friday Edition | No. 17

Going No Contact and the Wisdom of Goldilocks

Going no contact can be one of the hardest decisions you will ever have to make. Severing ties with family is a self-determined and empowered step toward ending emotional, physical, and psychological abuse. The choice to go no contact seems to fall into three distinct categories:

1. Limiting family connections, and the amount of time spent with family or avoiding specific family members or events that are the most triggering and abusive. (This could be a first option before fully going no contact or feel like the best long-term option for your situation.)

2. Deliberately choosing to go no contact, and removing toxic family members from your life.

3. The choiceless choice – when the choice to go no contact is automatic, made for you, or when there is literally no other choice to make but sever all contact.

You may find that one choice may feel too much, another too little, and one may feel just right. Depending on where you are in the process of making this decision it is never easy. Making this choice is much more consequential and important than porridge, or the comfort of household furniture, and should not be taken lightly – no offense Goldilocks.